Respectfulness, Reciprocality, and Responsiveness are the 3 rs that lead to better communication between partners, whether it be professional or personal. I'm the kind that pretty much minds my own business and deal with not too many people besides family and close friends. Because of this I feel that it truly keeps me grounded and out of others "mess". So there have been very few times when I have had arguments with others besides the occasional fall out/argument that my husband and I seldom have!!! During these times I must say that neither one of us took the time to follow the 3rs of communication. We often said things in a not so nice way because of our tempers being hot at that particular moment!! But I'm almost positive that if we had taken the time to actually HEAR and RESPECT what the other was thinking, as well as RESPOND in a non-argumentative way, then the conversation would not have been as heated because both parties would have been respected! This is definitely a method that I have not used but could definitely benefit from professionally as well as personally on a day to day basis!!

This weeks blog relates to the assignment/application for week 4. In this assignment, I had to conduct two surveys on my own as well as get two people to conduct the same surveys. On the first I received a score of 27 and on the second survey I received a score of 60. Both of my testers scored very similar to myself as well as with each other. After looking at things that we differed on opinions of would be feeling disappointed when I spoke publicly, as well as showing others that I dislike them. When I scored myself I felt as if I was always confident before and after public speaking; but after reviewing the feedback from my coworker and husband they informed me that I appear less confident because I am always asking how I did afterwards, as well as consistently asking if my presentation was appropriate beforehand! When I think about it I guess it does seem that I am less confident when speaking publicly! The second issue that differed was showing dislike! I always try to get along with others regardless but its hard sometimes! My coworker and husband informed me that I need to work on my facial expressions/demeanor! When I think about it that's so true! My mouth could be saying one thing but my body language.....which is often very believable.....needs to be in sync!!! I truly enjoyed this assignment and it will definitely help me in my professional and personal life!!

For this weeks blog assignment we are asked if we communicate differently for people that may be on different levels within our daily circle. For me, I must say that I am more comfortable around the people that I deal with on a daily basis! So for them, I may not always use appropriate language, etc. But when it comes to people like those in my area office , who I don't deal with on a daily basis, I find I use language that is more appropriate, my listening skills are better, and my eye contact is better. Not that I don't do these things on a daily level, but I think we are more aware of these things when we are trying to make a impression on someone that we view as important. One thing that I have learned this week is to pay attention to how others communicate. By doing this I can become a better communicator with various people. Number two would be to realize that everyone is not like me, so I can't expect them to communicate as I would! And last, taking the me out of the equation and just focusing on how another person feels in a conversation will get me well on my way to becoming a better communicator! I must say that I learned a lot this week!!

Communication Skills and Styles

For this assignment I used a Lifetime movie called 'The Perfect Boyfriend' instead of a TV show because I don't have anyway of recording one. So basically I cut the TV on mute when the show came on at 2pm, watched it for a while on mute, and then finished the movie out with regular volume. The important characters in the movie appeared to be one adult male and one child male. The female characters were three main characters; one that seemed to be a teenaged daughter and the other two seemed to be the wife and mistress. Without sound it appears that the adult male is having an affair on his wife. He is very affectionate with both females and this is what lead me to my conclusion, because of his body languages with both (hugs, kisses, etc). The young boy seemed to be the child of the husband and wife, even though he seemed to be more affectionate with the mother. As for the teenager, the mother appears to be pretty young , but its apparent that she must be a child of hers considering she lives in the household. The union seemed more loving between the mistress and husband because when he hugs the wife, his eyes seem a bit suspicious! Now when I'm about to turn the volume up......a mysterious man has entered the picture and he's hugging the young boy and the boy is spending the night with him!!! Ughhhhh!! Lol! 😁 Just when I thought I had it all figured out!!
Volume up: Boy was I wrong!!! Totally different scenario with a little sound!!! The two females were a wife and fake girlfriend. The adult male lived with the fake girlfriend because him and the wife were plotting to get millions from her!!  So this is where the suspicious look came from when I thought he was hugging the "wife" who in actuality was the fake girlfriend! The one whom I thought was the mistress was actually the wife!! Confusing, I know! The little was actually not the son of the boyfriend, so this explains why he wasn't as affectionate as the mother. The teenager was actually the live in babysitter who was basically like a member of the family.
Basically, this assignment has taught me that a lot can be gained from body language, facial expressions, which are all forms of nonverbal communication. Sometimes it tells on you, as in the words you speak may not be the same as the language your body is speaking; and during other times, nonverbal language can be misleading. This is why its important to speak up, and voice your opinion through ongoing communication! This assignment was quite fun and has taught me a lot!